This question is answered by the attachment theory developed by the psychiatrist John Bowlby in 1950.
Attachment theory is an important framework for understanding how our relationships are formed, beginning in childhood and continuing into adulthood. John Bowlby, with his theory, argued that the child's early emotional connections with his primary caregivers (usually mother) shape the model of the child's bond with other people.
The basic idea of the theory is that the correct and stable relationship of the child with his parent is necessary for his psychological and emotional development. In childhood, the secure attachment bond with parents promotes a child's security, self-confidence, and the development of social skills. A child who feels safe and loved has the confidence that he can explore the world safely, knowing that his parents are there to support him. Secure attachment promotes the child's development of self-confidence, independence and the development of social skills. And this bond is created when the mother responds appropriately to the child's needs, when she is consistently available, patient and receptive to his discomfort. The bond created is designated as a secure bond.
On the other hand, if the mother is not as available and responsive to the child's needs and emotional needs, an insecure attachment is created. And finally if the infant receives abusive behavior or poor quality care, a disorganized attachment to the caregiver is created.
In adulthood, the attachment bond continues to play an important role in our relationships and is essentially considered a catalyst in what personality traits the adult acquires and what choices he makes. The experiences we have in childhood shape the way we choose partners and form bonds in adulthood. The attachment bond can have a significant impact on a person's relationships and emotional well-being in adulthood.
People who have developed secure attachment as children tend to have high self-confidence and trust in others. They are likely to seek stable and secure relationships in adulthood and to be more open in communicating and expressing their feelings.
Individuals who have developed insecure attachment as children may more often exhibit traits such as anxiety, insecurity, and fear of rejection in their relationships. They may have difficulty trusting other people and have more difficulty expressing their feelings.
Individuals who have developed avoidant attachment may exhibit characteristics such as avoiding tension in their relationships and preferring autonomy. They are likely to avoid communication in times of tension or difficulty and try to maintain their independence.
In summary, attachment theory and significance highlight the importance of relationships and emotions in human life, from childhood to adulthood. Understanding these fundamental principles helps us develop more stable and fulfilling relationships with others and with ourselves.
Having the information of the attachment theory, being adults we can make an inner journey of self-awareness, in order to improve the relationships of the present but alsoi of the past.
Bibliography
Bowlby, J. (1969). Attachment: Attachment and loss (Vol. 1). New York: Basic Books.
Bowlby, J. (1973). Separation: Anxiety and anger: Attachment and loss (Vol. 2). New York: Basic Books.
Bowlby, J. (1982). Attachment (2nd ed.). New York: Basic Books.
Bowlby, J. (1980). Attachment and loss, Vol. 3: Loss, sadness and depression. New York: Basic Books.
Bowlby, J. (1973). Attachment and loss. Vol 3: Loss: Sadness and depression. New York: Basic Books (reissued, 1999).
